Wednesday, 6 November 2013

7 Things Great Entrepreneurs Don't Do

7 Things Great Entrepreneurs Don't DoThese days, everyone with a MacBook and a blog thinks he’s an entrepreneur. Well, here’s a little tough love for the entrepreneurial generation: Calling yourself a CEO doesn’t make you one and a small army of Twitter followers doesn’t make you a leader, either.

As a wise VC who’s name escapes me once said, “There are entrepreneurs and there are Entrepreneurs.”

Not to dash your hopes and dreams, but the truth is the vast majority of you simply aren’t cut out to be entrepreneurs or leaders. I know you don’t want to hear that, but it’s true. And the sooner you realize you’re not going to be the second coming of Mark Zuckerberg, the better.

Don’t get me wrong. It’s great to reach for the stars. As Robert Browning said, “A man’s reach should exceed his grasp.” But having grown up in the high-tech industry and worked with hundreds of real CEOs, VCs, and Entrepreneurs for decades, one thing I can tell you is the word has become so overused, it’s almost meaningless.

So while there is no one-size-fits-all model for true entrepreneurs, in my experience, there are some things they seem to have in common. This might surprise you, but what sets them apart isn’t some laundry list of attributes. It’s their actions. What makes them unique is what they do and, perhaps more importantly, what they don’t do.

1. They don’t think about work-life balance.
They’re mostly workaholics. What that means is their work comes first. It’s what they live for. They’re not freewheeling, fun-loving people who live for the weekend. They live to do what they love, and that’s work.
 
2. They don’t try to be what they’re not.
Probably the most damaging business myth to come along in decades is personal branding. You are not a product, and you can’t change who you are. Besides, real entrepreneurs don’t think about themselves. They think about their ideas and how to turn them into great products and services. And they deliver.

3. They don’t do it for the money.
They don’t whine about how hard they work for peanuts. They just do it. And because they’re passionate about what they do and focused like a laser beam, the money eventually comes, big-time.

4. They don’t have day jobs.
Great entrepreneurs don’t just dip their toes in the water. They jump in headfirst without a thought about the rocks below. They don’t do a little of this and a little of that. When they hit on something they think is really cool and exciting, they go all in.

5. They don’t give in to fear.
They don’t pay attention to those voices in their heads – you know, the ones that haunt you with everything that can go wrong. They’re not fearless, mind you. Nobody is. They just don’t let their fear stop them from taking risks. They do listen to some voices, though: the voice of reason and their instincts.

6. They don’t have grand visions.
While some do have grand delusions that they’re destined for greatness – a prophecy that’s often self-fulfilling, interestingly enough – for the most part, they generally don’t have grand visions for their companies. Zuckerberg, for example, wasn’t trying to create a company. He just wanted to rate the looks of fellow classmates.

7. They don’t have virtual mentors.
Most people follow all sorts of writers, bloggers and tweeters these days. That’s fine, but to get somewhere in life, to do great things, you have to have real mentors in the real world. Former Intel chairman Andy Grove mentored Steve Jobs. Jobs, in turn, advised Google founders Larry Page and Sergey Brin. Behind every great entrepreneur is at least one great mentor. A real one.

Most importantly, real entrepreneurs don’t call themselves entrepreneurs. They don’t do what everyone else is doing. They don’t follow the status quo, conventional wisdom or popular fads. They carve their own unique path. They’re leaders of their own destiny. That’s what drives them. And that’s why they succeed.

Tuesday, 29 October 2013

10 Easy Ways to Minimize Stress

As if there aren't enough threats to your business, the biggest hazard may be one you can't see: chronic stress. Hiding in plain sight, this toxic saboteur can ruin the best-laid plans with a trip to the ER and a sinkhole of medical bills. You may think you're handling it, but that's usually an illusion, supplied by the adrenaline released by the stress response, which masks the damage to your body by giving you a sense you're powering through it.

Brian Curin, 39, thought he was managing risk well as president of the footwear retailer Flip Flop Shops, which has more than 90 locations. Yes, there was pressure, but he exercised and ate well. He did feel a little off, though, and had a faint ache of something resembling heartburn.

Curin decided to pay his doctor a visit. Blood work, a resting EKG and a respiration test were negative, but a stress test and an angiogram turned up a big problem: four blocked arteries, one of them at 100 percent--not what Curin expected at his age. Without open-heart surgery, he could have been dead within weeks.

"I was extremely lucky," says Curin, whose wake-up call prompted him to start a campaign, The Heart to Sole: Creating a Stress-Free America, to lobby for stress-testing at all companies and to support the American Heart Association's My Heart. My Life. program. "If something doesn't feel right, it's probably not. Get it checked out."

Long-term risk-taking and the demands of wearing multiple hats make entrepreneurs easy prey for chronic stress, which compromises the immune system, increases bad cholesterol and decreases the good kind. Bravado and busyness can keep entrepreneurs in denial mode until the paramedics arrive.
You're not much good to your business from six feet under. Keep the sirens at bay with these essential strategies.
  • Pay attention to your body. Insomnia, heart palpitations, anxiety, bowel issues--they're trying to tell you something. See your doctor.
  • Make stress-testing as routine as dental checkups.
  • Cut stress by reducing time urgency. Every minute is not life or death.
  • Identify the story behind the stress and reframe it from catastrophic to a new story: "Yes, I've got 300 e-mails, but I can handle it."
  • Build stress-relief techniques into your schedule--meditation, progressive relaxation, exercise, a hobby.
  • Set boundaries. Sixteen hours of work a day is not sustainable. Find the "just enough" point in a given day or project.
  • Hire somebody. Doing it yourself can cost well more than the price of a helping hand.
  • Step back. Brains have to reset every
  • 90 minutes. Breaks increase mental functioning and interrupt stress.
  • Get a life. The best stress buffer is a life beyond work. Remember that?

Monday, 28 October 2013

Dating Lifestyle, Guys: 10 Steps to Win Her Heart

When it comes to dating and seduction some men choose to give up. They think that talent for seduction is something that you are either born with or you never get it. It is true that for some men it comes naturally, but it can also be easily learned. The greatest secret of all the famous charmers in the world is that they truly admire women whose company make them feel happy. If someone’s presence makes you happy, and you do not know how to win her heart, here is a little help from a friend.

#1 – Power

A long time ago Oscar Wild had said:” Everything is about sex, except sex. Sex is about power.” Always keep in mind that the one who looses power falls for the other. Having power means to feel more in control, stable, to be sure that everything will be just the way you want it. It means that you know exactly who you are and what you deserve. You can spend time with her, get to know her, allow her to have all your attention but always be aware that there are other fish in the sea just waiting to find you.

#2 – Respect

A good piece of advice is to tell you that you should show her respect; a better one would be to tell you that you should show respect for all women. If you think that the simple opening of a door for her would make her suddenly feel love for you, then you are making a huge mistake. Respect for women is a way of life. It is your attitude and it can be noticed in every sentence that you say. Women are very intuitive about this stuff, so you better really mean it. You should be kind, even give her compliments, but only if you are honestly impressed. Also, you can treat her like a princess, but if she notices that you are rude to other women, you will totally fail. So, show honest respect!

#3 – Self-Respect

One of the biggest mistakes that men make is that once everything goes well, they are so afraid of loosing their partner that they are ready to accept grains of attention. Never accept that! If she has no time to speak on the phone properly, say that you will call her later and then do not call her for a while or even better, let her call you first. If she is in a hurry, no problem, you will be glad to see her some other time, when she finally has time to call you and talk with you without checking her mobile every couple of minutes. Also, never give up your insecurities, be confident about your qualities. She will treat you the way she perceives you, so let her see your better side.

#4 – Time

For most men, everything starts well and then they get lost. Usually, they are left wondering what went wrong. The reason for that is time. Never rush into anything, especially love. Take it slow, be cool, remember that you are still at the beginning and let her know that you are evaluating her as much as she is evaluating you. A common mistake is to relax and become too available. Continue with your obligations as usual, if you do not have them, create some. For example you can go out with your friends, women like guys who like having fun. Since you have earned her attention this is a great time to make her miss you. Out of blue, choose a few days not to call her. This will make her think about you and be happy once you are back.

#5 – Merits

Everything that comes easily goes easily. If she gets all your attention and feelings without any effort she will probably start thinking that she can lose you easily because she can get you back any time. Make her earn your attention, respect, time. The point is that she works a little harder than usual and always to be rewarded for nice behavior. That way she will respect what she has and the grass will never be greener in a neighbour’s yard.

#6 – Curiosity

If you are an open book to her you risk to become boring. Women like intrigue, romance and mysticism. Do not confuse this with any kind of lying; just do not confess every minute of your day. Also, do not get in details about her day because that gives away insecurity. A good thing would be to have some hobby that requires absence and concentration so you could not call and text all the time. If you are having a great time together she would definitely start missing you.

#7 – Looks

Take care of your looks. Always be clean, tidy, use a particular cologne that would remind her of you. The truth is that for most women, looks are not as important as confidence,which posses men who are secure about their looks. Go exercise; buy trendy clothes, anything that will make you happy. She might not suddenly notice the change of appearance but she will notice your self-confidence.

#8 – Flirting

Avoid the “friend zone”. Never be trapped to become a friend. There is a way out, but a very hard one so it is a much better option simply to avoid it. Never confess to her. No matter how close you are, she should respect you, so there is no need to explain too much. You are not somebody she can confess her deep secrets, you should become her deep secret. She should feel awe and respect and feel embarrassed to talk about things that are usually normal to share with friends. However, you should always be there for her, admire her and support her.

#9 – Friends

Her friends are really important and a sensitive part of the seduction. Most men fall in to the trap of trying to become close to her friends. There is no need for that; it is enough that they like you. When it comes to her girl friends, it would be really convenient if they would look at you as a good catch. This is very convenient because if they find you attractive they will make her realize that she wants you, then it is just the matter of time for the fire in her heart to start burning.

#10 – Less is More

Never make the first move. When you seduce always keep in mind that less is more. Like Mr. Big in the TV series, always keep her in the dark. Let her wonder, make plans, evaluate and then finally come to the conclusion that you are the one. Once you have completely realized the previous steps, she will convince herself that you are all she wants and you would not be able to convince her the opposite even if you wanted to.